Over the years, I have heard that corrective criticism is good for helping people change their behavior. I agree with this logic to a certain extent. Corrective criticism is a part of the growth process, if we are not told what we are doing wrong; we will keep doing undesirable behavior. Also, we who criticize others need to do it in a non-judgmental, gentle way.
Many times I have heard people criticizing others in a prideful way. This is a waste of time and causes people to resist those who criticize them in such a negative way. Further, these people are likely to distance themselves from this kind of negative criticism.
As we criticize others we need to keep a humble attitude, so to not open the door to our own downfall because of our pride. The bible in Galations 6:1 states ”Brethren, if any persons be overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort you who are spiritual (who are responsive to and controlled by the spirit) should set him right and restore and reinstate him, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eye on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.”
When we have a humble attitude in regards to helping somebody, we are more effective and people are more likely to accept what we said. While, on the hand, if we go around and constantly remind people of their shortcoming, we inadvertently cause them to become worse.
The point I am trying to make is we need to show people the mercy and grace we would want to be shown. Love is the key to making a difference in the lives of others. There is no perfect person, we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory. We can help somebody when we realize we are no better than they are and choose to love people no matter what.