I already covered what it takes to be a loyal listener on my blog and Facebook live. In my earlier conversations, I gave Merriam Webster’s definition of loyal. The definition of loyal is “having or showing complete or constant support for someone or something.
Also, I explained the correct way to listen, which is empathetic listening. Stephon Covey discussed this in the 7 habits of highly effective people. He goes on to state that we need to listen to understand and not reply.
What is a “respecter of persons” Mentality
A “respecter of persons” mentality blocks some people from listening to people they don’t deem “important.”
The freedom.com dictionary describes “respect of persons” as to regard persons with partiality or undue bias, especially or on account of friendship, power, wealth.
To have a “respecter of persons” mentality is wrong. In James 2:1-4 it states “My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory. For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, “You sit here in a good place,” while you say to the poor man, “You stand over there,” or, “Sit down at my feet,” “You sit here in a good place,” while you say to the poor man, “You stand over there,” or, “Sit down at my feet,” have you not then made distinctions among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?”
Whenever someone has a “respecter of persons” mentality it shows that they value “appearance” and “performance” of men and women rather than man or woman as a fellow human being.
Dictionary.com describes “respecter” as someone or something that is influenced by social standing, importance, power, or any deterrent put forth by persons or things.
We should not be partial
We all were made in the image of God. To knowingly not listen to someone because of their “appearance”, “performance”, “importance”, social standing”, etc, could cause you to miss out on valuable information and learn from someone who can help you.We all were made in the image of God. To knowingly not listen to someone because of their “appearance”, “performance”, “importance”, social standing”, etc, could cause you to miss out on valuable information and learn from someone who can help… Click To Tweet
“Social standing”, appearance”, etc. should not determine who you listen to. These are characteristics and does not represent a person’s character which is more important than “appearance”.
There are many people who have great “appearance” and/or “performance” but yet they are egotistical and self-serving.
A “Respecter of persons” mentality is prevalent in the workforce, churches, etc. It’s is a big problem in many places.
If this is not corrected within organizations, it can led to people getting fed up of their voice not being heard and their departure to somewhere where they will be valued and treated equally.
For many years, I have seen the damaging effects that having a “respecter of persons” mentality can cause. It makes one only listen or lift up individuals they deem more “important,” while neglecting others.
I try to always treat everyone the same. It does not matter whether you’re the janitor, CEO of a company, have many talents or are a celebrity. I don’t believe that someone who has more resources, etc should be treated with greater respect than someone who has less.
The cure to being a “respecter of persons”
The cure to being a “respecter of persons” is to treat everyone with respect, not judge others, and not show partiality.
God does not have a “respecter of persons” mentality, why should we? We need to examine ourselves and be honest. Start by asking yourself do I treat everyone the same? Or, am I more respectful and kind to the people who meet my criteria (performance, appearance, past background, etc)?
If you find that you are a partial person I challenge you to start treating everyone with the same respect and dignity that you would want.
Finally, to treat everyone equally requires a humble attitude and understanding that we were all created in the image of God.
How do you guard against treating others with a “respecter of persons” mentality? How do you act when someone displays that mentality towards you?